The success of your wedding reflects the direction of your marriage. During wedding planning, you have to agree on various things like the color theme, type of cake, the number of bridesmaids among other issues. As usual, you have varied interests and you have to agree to disagree. Furthermore, planning a wedding is not a walk in the park; you have to deal with disappointments and last minute decision changes as well as other concepts. All of these act as a test of your love. At this time your negotiation skills, personality, and your brainstorming skills are put on trial. It is the first tough journey you will have to go through together. Its victory means you have coping skills for each other.
So, how does the wedding prepare you for marriage?
Let’s understand this in detail below-
- Equips you with tips on how to cope with your partner
While planning your wedding, your diverse interests cause conflicts; be it the number of guests, the type of food, or the wedding venue among the others. You get to understand minute habits and behaviour details of your spouse, for example, you find your bride never takes a ‘no’ for an answer, yet you feel you need to air an important issue which might burden you. It is at this point that you learn to deal with your partner in similar circumstances without causing a rift in your marriage.
- Improves your communication
Communication is vital in wedding planning. You must reach a unison on the budget of your wedding and even split responsibilities, especially when working on a tight deadline. This is a virtue that you will go a long way in your married life. Communication breakdown is a major cause of many divorce cases in the contemporary society. Open and honest communication gives partners an equal chance to air their views freely without any fear of judgment.
- Sharpens your personality in dealing with conflicts
Disappointment from vendors and service providers are inevitable in the wedding preparations. Couples realize each other’s strengths and weaknesses which help them to have a better understanding of their spouse. For example, your caterer changes her price list anytime you make a visit; your spouse agrees with this habit just for the sake of the wedding while you stick to the original agreement. Typically in your married life, your partner will always consult you in most areas because of your sensitivity and ability to stand your ground and your spouse will come in as a peacemaker when there’s conflict.
- Allows couples to protect their interests
Family and relatives have a habit of making decisions for your wedding, according to their taste and preferences. You may not be in agreement yet you need to maintain the love and respect for them. You have to come in and stick to your interests. ‘Hey, it’s my wedding and this is what I need’. After your successful wedding, you have an easy time to handle family and relative interference by protecting and guarding your marriage from such traps.
- Enables spouses to become good financial planners
You choose the type of wedding you require according to your financial ability. You have to sit together and plan your finances with a view of the relationship ahead. Planning a wedding in such a scenario calls for making sacrifices and compromises to ensure you are comfortable even after the wedding. This is a virtue you employ in marriage- you live within your means and plan ahead with the finances at hand.
- Strengthens the family bond through proper time management
After the engagement, both of you have to split your time between your future spouse and your family. You know when to say yes or no when it comes to some engagements. This helps you to keep your family in mind in this new relationship. You manage your work and family to ensure no one feels neglected despite the new family responsibilities.
- Gives you the ability to learn from your mistakes
In one way or the other, mistakes are inevitable; you chose a wrong path that may have cost you during your wedding. It is time to accept and move on but let it be a learning lesson. Both of you work as a team by offering each other’s shoulder to lean on or just give valuable advice which you culminated right from your first project-Wedding.
Your first project is a real test of your personality, patience and your level of perseverance. It is a class in its own way which gives you a glimpse of what to expect in marriage and probably the best way you can handle life ahead.
Author Bio:- Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.