Going into marriage is a huge responsibility and it requires lifetime commitment. There is a whole life ahead which you decide to spend with that one person. You do not only share your home but you share everything that you have.
Nobody can guarantee the success of your marriage but it is obvious that keeping ambiguities in such a relationship can lead to its failure. Therefore, you need to be sure about the other person and clear out the ambiguities by using different ways.
Want to know what those ways are and what you must do before marriage to prevent any after-marriage surprises (traumas) from your partner? Keep reading and thank me when done!
Know Their Perspective about Having Kids
It may seem early to you to have such a discussion and you may not want to put your partner into discomfort. But keep in mind that you need to know their perspective about children to be ready beforehand.
Plus, you also need to make sure that you two think alike when it comes to kids. If not, you will try to align your thoughts and reach to a conclusion.
Ask them whether they want kids and if yes, how many and when. You wouldn’t want to leave such important discussion for later as it may be something you can’t compromise on.
Share a Responsibility
Sharing a responsibility does not necessarily mean a huge one. You can always get a pet that you both are responsible for or a car or a garden of your own. Having a shared responsibility will help strengthen your relationship and develop understanding and capability to work like a team. All these traits are necessary for the success of any relationship.
Pick a Small Fight
Picking a fight is not a good strategy. However, it becomes essential if you want to see how much your partner is willing enough to put an end to it and compromise.
After picking a fight, try turning it into a healthy negotiation and see if your partner does the same. The attitude of your other half in a fight shows their patience level and ability to handle a situation.
Plus, small fights are healthy for a relationship. You both should know how to turn an argument into a discussion and reach a middle-way conclusion. It is important to learn before you enter into marriage.
Travel together as it will not only be something fun you do before marriage but also a huge chance to help discover new things about your partner. Going to a whole new place far from home will put you both out of your comfort zone and therefore, you both will get to observe a change in one another. Plus, you get a chance to learn more about each other’s likes and dislikes, food preferences, fashion sense and public ethics.
About the author
Noor Najam is a 22-year old student who loves to explore food delights and ever-growing new tastes of different regions. She likes to stay fit and make healthier food choices. She thinks she should have studied a culinary related bachelor’s degree instead of her current bachelors in Social Sciences. She regularly posts on https://pateeri.com/.